Dating after divorce in your 40s

16 Nov

And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.

The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age.

Going on a date and not knowing the rules because the last date you went on was 20 years ago, can be a really scary thing. Weeding through hundreds of guys who probably want to make a suit of my skin, trying to find that one gem who not only is not a serial killer, but who also chews with his mouth closed can be daunting.

My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.

We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.

Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.