Dating bitterness

25 Nov

I know that because, having experienced this emotion from the inside for most of my life, I sure as hell resisted believing it when I heard people saying it. It sounds corny to say it like that, but I don’t know how to say it and be believed.A few months back, I was at a bar with some friends, and we were talking about girls. When I got home, I wondered at my strong response, and sat down to think about why I was affected so much by this idiot’s babbling.One of the guys, an acquaintance, started ranting about how easy women had it. I was surprised to discover something I didn’t like: he reminded me of myself, many years ago.It was around this period that I started to play really competitive Tekken.I played every day, watched match videos, practiced combos, and attended tournaments.

He kept ranting on and on about how unfair it was, how women were privileged and spoiled, and nagged at my ear until I couldn’t take it anymore.There’s no one more resistant to being empathized with or more prone to call attempts to do so “patronizing” than the bitter lonely guy, especially when women try to do it but even when other nerdy guys try to reach out. Nerdlove and the founders of the Good Men Project spend huge chunks of their lives trying to help nerdy guys, but still get regularly blasted with extreme vitriol as “feminist SJWs” by said nerdy guys.I’ve tried to write sympathetically about this stuff in the past: the guilt, the shame, the constant feelings of inadequacy.If you hang back and check out their responses to what is going on between the two of you, the mistrust and hostility with be there to see. Oh and they always have an excuse on why things don't work out and the excuse is never them Would you want a bitter woman?How many times have we heard that men don't like women that nag them all the time or point out their flaws or start arguments with them?After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.A person, man or woman who is angry and bitter can't resist making sarcastic digs at the perceived flaws they find in th opposite sex.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.Bitter people tend to cause others around them to be bitter.Yes someone can come along and turn that frown upside down, but someone who is pessimistic and bitter has to be willing to become more optimistic and accept that there is a good person that wants to be with them or be around them for that matter.