Give up internet dating

21 Nov

I got endless matches, all right, but I also didn’t know which matches were worth my time. Are we now too afraid to approach interesting people in real life because we know we can just go back to the comparative “ease” of approaching people online?

But I had a sneaking suspicion that this 21st-century way of dating might actually be stunting our personal growth.

The first step to overcoming your frustration with online dating is to adjust your mindset and expectations accordingly.

Online dating takes a different attitude and skill-set than, say, making cold approaches at a bar or flirting with someone you met at a house party.

It might be your brain has been fried with mind numbing dates... Often, (not always) the older you get the more negative experiences you accumulate and the sense of futility grows and grows. I'm not making light of the frustrations of dating and finding the right person for the first, second, or third time.

At some point, you might be getting ready to call it a day and simply give up on the rat race of dating. Believe me, I write from much experience, not just as a life coach, but as a baby boomer that grew up and burned out on singles dances, vowing never to return.

In fact, instead of the SOS, you're going to experience How is this going to happen? You've already begun to clarify what makes you feel best in a relationship. right, but often it's about their concept of what you desire or worse, what they think is best for you! Learn from your own experiences what works for you. As is often heard in the background of Adam Sandler movies... " Mind Acrobatics Exercise #2: "Imagination Time... " Here's both a physical and mental activity rolled into one. Fantastic, once you've returned from your pleasant little jaunt or perhaps mini-assignation you will have completed two exercises designed to help you get a clearer picture of what you find most desirable in a relationship. " Whether it's an introduction from a friend, a dating website or a happenstance meeting in a coffee shop... Before you tell your adult children that you are dating again (or make a big deal about someone specific), make sure that the two of you are a couple.

What are the pitfalls — and why might it be better than IRL dating?  " data-reactid="31"I get it — online dating is the new “normal” in today’s day and age.

But I’m also a person who values her time and emotional investment (like most people).

Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

Lao Tzu Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.